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Tips for Using Mediation Skills Every Day

8/22/2023

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Clients and friends often assume that because I am a mediator, I excel at working out conflict within my own family. I tell them that mediation skills are valuable in everyday life and help navigate conflicts, improve communication, and foster better relationships. Here's how you can apply mediation skills in your daily interactions wherever you are:
  • Active Listening: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the person speaking. Avoid interrupting or formulating your response while the person is talking. This shows respect and helps you truly understand his or her perspective. Listening does not mean agreeing/
  • Empathy: Put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to understand his or her feelings and point of view. This can help you approach the situation with compassion and avoid jumping to conclusions.
  • Stay Calm: When conflicts arise, stay calm. Emotional reactions can escalate situations. Take deep breaths and maintain a composed demeanor, which can help de-escalate tensions.
  • Use "I" Statements: Express your thoughts and feelings using "I" statements rather than accusatory or blaming language. This helps prevent the other person from becoming defensive and opens up space for a constructive conversation.
  • Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage the other person to share his or her perspective by asking open-ended questions. These questions require more than a simple "yes" or "no" answer and promote deeper discussions.
  • Focus on Interests: Identify the underlying needs and interests of both parties. Often, conflicts arise due to differing needs, and finding common ground can lead to effective solutions. Ask: Help me to understand why you feel this way?
  • Separate People from the Problem: Emphasize that you are addressing the issue at hand, not attacking the person. This can help reduce personal feelings of defensiveness and keep the conversation focused on resolving the problem.
  • Generate Options: Brainstorm together to find various solutions that could address the issue. This collaborative approach can lead to creative and mutually beneficial outcomes. View the other side as a partner rather than as an adversary.
  • Stay Neutral: As a mediator, your goal is to remain impartial at all times. Avoid taking sides and work toward finding solutions that benefit everyone involved.
  • Summarize and Clarify: Periodically summarize, paraphrase, and re-frame the discussion to ensure you're both on the same page. This helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures that both parties are heard.
  • Focus on Win-Win Solutions: Strive for outcomes that meet the needs and interests of both parties. This encourages a sense of collaboration and helps build positive relationships.
  • Practice Patience: Resolution might not come immediately. Be patient and allow time for both parties to reflect, process, and come to a decision.
  • Offer Appreciation: Acknowledge the effort and willingness of the other person to engage in the mediation process. Showing appreciation can foster goodwill and maintain a positive atmosphere.
  • Know When to Seek Help From Other Professionals: While mediation skills are valuable, some conflicts might require help from additional professionals especially if they involve legal, safety, or mental health concerns. Other professionals who may help include an attorney, therapist, parenting coordinator, and/or a financial neutral.

Mediation is a learned skill that takes time to develop and refine. The more you practice these techniques in your daily life, the more effective you'll become at handling conflicts and fostering positive relationships. 
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    Ellice Halpern, J.D., is a Virginia Supreme Court certified general and family mediator.

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